People fascinate me. I never seen something so beautiful and ugly at the same time. One minute they are friendly the next ferocious and the next laughing. Maybe we are all bipolar lol. Well, to an extent.
I love watching mothers with their small children when they are smiling and answering questions to their baby's little voice. Teaching and being genuinely affectionate.
And then of course five minutes later, when their sweet child picks up a rock and throws it at someone else's kid, how their faces wrinkle up in frustration and they are swift to take action. So cool how we can do that isn't it? Not to mention the apologetic face and body language of embarrassment when they walk over to the other angry mother to say how sorry they are. I giggled at the whole thing thinking how completely nuts we must look to women without children lol.
I love watching dads too. They are unfailingly strict and play a little too rough. They get aggravated quickly when they are busy fixing something on the house and constantly being interrupted by their children. But there is always that one sweet moment, where they make a joke or kick the ball back to them smiling, and you can see it in their children's faces, how they soar with delight that dad sees them and he must really love them. It may be a small moment or two but to them it's worth it. And kind words at all makes them so happy.
I love watching children. I love sitting at the park listening to all the squeals and laughter and even the occasional whine. I imagine how awful that would be not to have those sounds around me. The world would be so eerily quiet. Too quiet.
My favorite place to hide is my bathtub. Stick my head under the water while it's running and it drowns out every sound outside that bathtub. All I can hear is the water running and breathing. The most relaxing thing in the world. Well, until someone bursts in the door complaining about what the other one did. Dag nab them when they do that lol. That icky jolt you feel when you have just fallen into a complete state of peace and tranquility. Hate that.
I love my enemies too. I know that seems weird and other people usually tell all their friends what so and so did. I usually tell 2 and one of them is always my husband. But I do cry for them. I do. I love them despite their lack of good feelings towards me. I always end up wishing things could be different and wracking my brain for ideas on how to soften their hearts. But, alas, they have to choose. And some inspite of your kind efforts, ignore any opportunity for true and honest change towards you or anybody. They're stuck. Damned I guess you would call it. And by choice of all things. My heart aches for them continually and I pray for them. I really do.
People fascinate me. I never seen something so beautiful and ugly at the same time. One minute they are friendly the next ferocious and the next laughing......
Friday, January 13, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
I Feel Dumb
Have you ever had a feeling to do something because it was the right thing to do and then felt stupid afterwards? Not because you said anything stupid but just plain awkward?
I feel that way too often lately. My logic is very simple and straight forward I don't need complications or to talk above someone's head I used to do that alot sometimes on purpose I admit for pure entertainment teasing value, hopefully never at the expense of hurt feelings. I think that life offers it's own confusions and I've decided not to be a part of them thus the straight forward honest approach is best for me. But even if I've skillfully worded it, had a great happy peaceful feeling about it, afterwards all I feel is just plain awkward.
The most irritation thing is I'm sure it's just me. Somehow for some weird reason I'm allowing my head to wander into a million different scenarios on how others might take what I say. The world has gotten so over sensitive about everything that it's nerve wracking just to think anything about another human being. How they'll react to anything I say or do. There are people around me that are in some odd frame of mind about things and always seem to be offended along with the expectation that the perfection that they are trying to attain in this life comes from "acting" perfect around others.
This is a mistake. Pure and simple mistake. In order to become perfect you must be willing to sink so low to the ground that you are willing to admit you are dust and humble enough not only to accept it but be thankful for it. Interesting concept I know. But, true. To be above others is arrogant and prideful. To think you are better than others at any point in time is wrong. To constantly put those around you, even the ones that hate you, first in it's own crazy way is how you should be living and anyone who has EVER done that in their lives knows first hand the fantastic happy feeling you get from it.
But beware the feelings that you should be and are entitled to something in return for this is false. A trick. Has happened to me many times. I do lots of nice things for someone and not only do they not reciprocate they act as though an kind act I do towards them I owe them constantly because they are the moon and sun. Not good. Not correct either but whatever rocks their boat lol. I've been tricked and lied to by thoughts that seek only to cause my heart to be angry. Pfft what a waste! At least I figured it out though. At least the first thought that pops into my mind is to let it go to forgive quickly and move on. Yeah I learned something important!
Now the question is, how do you pass something like that on to others without them being over sensitive and offended? How do I help people without feeling dumb?
I feel that way too often lately. My logic is very simple and straight forward I don't need complications or to talk above someone's head I used to do that alot sometimes on purpose I admit for pure entertainment teasing value, hopefully never at the expense of hurt feelings. I think that life offers it's own confusions and I've decided not to be a part of them thus the straight forward honest approach is best for me. But even if I've skillfully worded it, had a great happy peaceful feeling about it, afterwards all I feel is just plain awkward.
The most irritation thing is I'm sure it's just me. Somehow for some weird reason I'm allowing my head to wander into a million different scenarios on how others might take what I say. The world has gotten so over sensitive about everything that it's nerve wracking just to think anything about another human being. How they'll react to anything I say or do. There are people around me that are in some odd frame of mind about things and always seem to be offended along with the expectation that the perfection that they are trying to attain in this life comes from "acting" perfect around others.
This is a mistake. Pure and simple mistake. In order to become perfect you must be willing to sink so low to the ground that you are willing to admit you are dust and humble enough not only to accept it but be thankful for it. Interesting concept I know. But, true. To be above others is arrogant and prideful. To think you are better than others at any point in time is wrong. To constantly put those around you, even the ones that hate you, first in it's own crazy way is how you should be living and anyone who has EVER done that in their lives knows first hand the fantastic happy feeling you get from it.
But beware the feelings that you should be and are entitled to something in return for this is false. A trick. Has happened to me many times. I do lots of nice things for someone and not only do they not reciprocate they act as though an kind act I do towards them I owe them constantly because they are the moon and sun. Not good. Not correct either but whatever rocks their boat lol. I've been tricked and lied to by thoughts that seek only to cause my heart to be angry. Pfft what a waste! At least I figured it out though. At least the first thought that pops into my mind is to let it go to forgive quickly and move on. Yeah I learned something important!
Now the question is, how do you pass something like that on to others without them being over sensitive and offended? How do I help people without feeling dumb?
Monday, January 2, 2012
Kindness begins with me
Raising kids is no easy task. It takes a lifetime of nurturing, properly teaching them right from wrong. You ask them to always be honest no matter what. You ask them to tell you everything when something is bothering them hoping that your experience will help them accept and overcome the challenge at hand. You inspire as much as you have time and hope that you are trying your own best to be a good example to them. And you know they watch and hear every single thing you do and say and will repeat it exactly in their own lifetimes. Tricky isn't it.
Manners are a ballgame all on their own. The biggest most important thing about your public behavior is this. The way you act and react, which is a much bigger deal to teach them not to do, shows how much you respect others and is a direct reflection of you.
If you gossip, eventually you will tell someone who will not only stand up to you and confront you never to repeat what you have just said to them, but you will find that others along the way will suddenly find the strength to confront you as well and it is a bitter taste to swallow. Suddenly you will see what they have been looking at all along and your reflection can be startling.
If you are kind and honest, you will never have to constantly remember what you told everyone and get caught in a web that will eventually be your own destruction with you as it's creator and you alone. Instead, you will receive many compliments of grandeur and delight and people will flock to you asking for advice or simple company for a moment or two because what they reflect of you is beautiful and inspiring.
Crude and rude behavior, people will think you were never taught but you and I both know we try to teach this but not all will listen or accept. Sitting up straight and carrying yourself with confidence will make others around you feel your strength and those who seek to hurt you in any way will hesitate.
My children have been taught, since preschool, empathy. Empathy is much more than kindess or sympathy. It's like receiving a wonderful filter when others are honest in ways that might upset them. They are quick to filter out the bad and give them the benefit of the doubt. The biggest part of empathy, is forgiveness. The willingness to quickly forgive and forget as the Savior did. To turn the other cheek and allow them to strike away at you willingly accepting their anger against you and praying for their souls. It doesn't make you weak. It is the opposite effect. You are strong and refuse to give in to the adversary who wittles you down to nothing one little piece at a time. You will never notice it unless you are looking for it. He is that clever and walks right beside the path of righteousness convincing you that everyone else does it, you're fine. He lies.
I will accept your ridicule, your indecencies, your cruel intentions of spite and arrogance. I will also accept your love, your forgiveness, your joy and inspirations if you were only but willing to share them with me. I will accept your pain and make it my own, struggle with you, cry with you, plead with you to God for help. I will accept your happiness and excitement, your laughter and triumphs, smiling with delight. I will love you and forgive you for the Lord taught me that. I will challenge you to think further on topics you struggle with regardless of your anger or offense. Be not easily offended. Do not judge others lest ye be judged, for the same mete you judge others thou shalt be judged. Love one another. Be not araid to offend others if you stand for truth and righteousness. Always......follow your heart.
Happy New Year. I wish you all the eternal blessings and joys this world has to offer. May you always find the good in others and have courage to stand for what's right according to what you believe and never waver.
Manners are a ballgame all on their own. The biggest most important thing about your public behavior is this. The way you act and react, which is a much bigger deal to teach them not to do, shows how much you respect others and is a direct reflection of you.
If you gossip, eventually you will tell someone who will not only stand up to you and confront you never to repeat what you have just said to them, but you will find that others along the way will suddenly find the strength to confront you as well and it is a bitter taste to swallow. Suddenly you will see what they have been looking at all along and your reflection can be startling.
If you are kind and honest, you will never have to constantly remember what you told everyone and get caught in a web that will eventually be your own destruction with you as it's creator and you alone. Instead, you will receive many compliments of grandeur and delight and people will flock to you asking for advice or simple company for a moment or two because what they reflect of you is beautiful and inspiring.
Crude and rude behavior, people will think you were never taught but you and I both know we try to teach this but not all will listen or accept. Sitting up straight and carrying yourself with confidence will make others around you feel your strength and those who seek to hurt you in any way will hesitate.
My children have been taught, since preschool, empathy. Empathy is much more than kindess or sympathy. It's like receiving a wonderful filter when others are honest in ways that might upset them. They are quick to filter out the bad and give them the benefit of the doubt. The biggest part of empathy, is forgiveness. The willingness to quickly forgive and forget as the Savior did. To turn the other cheek and allow them to strike away at you willingly accepting their anger against you and praying for their souls. It doesn't make you weak. It is the opposite effect. You are strong and refuse to give in to the adversary who wittles you down to nothing one little piece at a time. You will never notice it unless you are looking for it. He is that clever and walks right beside the path of righteousness convincing you that everyone else does it, you're fine. He lies.
I will accept your ridicule, your indecencies, your cruel intentions of spite and arrogance. I will also accept your love, your forgiveness, your joy and inspirations if you were only but willing to share them with me. I will accept your pain and make it my own, struggle with you, cry with you, plead with you to God for help. I will accept your happiness and excitement, your laughter and triumphs, smiling with delight. I will love you and forgive you for the Lord taught me that. I will challenge you to think further on topics you struggle with regardless of your anger or offense. Be not easily offended. Do not judge others lest ye be judged, for the same mete you judge others thou shalt be judged. Love one another. Be not araid to offend others if you stand for truth and righteousness. Always......follow your heart.
Happy New Year. I wish you all the eternal blessings and joys this world has to offer. May you always find the good in others and have courage to stand for what's right according to what you believe and never waver.
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